Sunday, September 14, 2008

Lessons Learned


I still believe in happy endings..

Millions of men and women fall in love, get married, then get separated. We all wanted to find love, and we try the best we can. It's not that we don't learn our lessons in love. We always learn. We always get hurt. But still love keeps us going. Love keeps us strong. Come to think of it, we are still creatures of habit and patterns. We are only unpredictable in some ways but love. In one way or another, we always end up loving someone unconditionally.

Some people thought that when a person went through a separation, that person become lifeless. Hateful. When marriage hits the rocks, it's like the lights have gone out of your life. Anger and resentment sets in. Revenge came after. These are but initial reactions, same as every drama on tv.

Six months later, you have realized that life is still wonderful. You have learned to love the change that you took. You wanted to do good if not best in everything you do. You have accepted the new challenge in life. You can't wait to share all the things you have learned in a relationship with your old friends and new found ones.

Months later, you find yourself falling in love again.. and what a perfect ending that is.


"We have a picture of the perfect partner, but we marry an imperfect person. Then we have two options. Tear up the picture and accept the person, or tear up the person and accept the picture". J. Grant Howard, Jr.


Lessons learned: We need to be totally honest about a relationship (past or present) in order to let go. Acceptance is important. Don't hold on to anger, hurt or pain. They tend to steal your energy and keep you from love. Don't be afraid to express tour love with open and honest affection and without restrictions. True forgiveness will become easier when we learn to empathize and apologize. Lastly, John 8:12...